Acceptance

What I understand is :
Acceptance without any condition attached. Acceptance is not a tool to be used for some other unsaid objective of ours.

Something which happened in the morning today:

Varsha was not in a great frame of mind and was crying. She had a tiff with her brother and wanted me to scold him. She kept telling me that 'no one loves me, you only love bhaiya'.. 'you don't scold him..but you scold me' etc.. I reflected what she was telling me,' you think I don't love you.. you think i don't scold bhaiya etc' and kept asking her how she felt about it.
After sometime, she calmed down.. hugged me and ran off to get ready.

I did not stop her from feeling what she was feeling
I did not even try to identify her feeling
I did not stop her thoughts ..just made her aware about it
I did not think about her getting ready for school

Would this qualify as pure acceptance??
Would it help if children are able to distinguish their thoughts from their feelings?
Have to keep working on it..

It is fun to learn this way (part 2)

Varsha and her friend wanted to study together. They started by answering questions.. jumping from one place to the other, running behind one another and suddenly Varsha came up with an idea that they could make a project on 'people who help us'.
They both wanted to take the project to school and show their teacher, though there was no such project to be made.
They were on the job for more than an hour ... laughing, talking, drawing, writing. We talk about children not being able to concentrate but here I could see them totally focused on what they were doing (motivation theirs! goal theirs!)

They were learning the fun way !




Inspired by her brother's project