School rules

Varsha came home the other day and said that she had to write an hindi worksheet at school. She told me that she knew which letters come after but gets confused with the letters which come before and especially with 'ch' and 'j'so she asked her friend clarified with her before writing.

I did not say anything so she looked at me and said, 'Mummy you only say na that if we do not know something we can take help from others'
I smiled and told her that it was ok with me but, as we follow some rules at home.. the school also has rules which we need to follow when we are at school. Their rule is that while doing worksheet we do whatever we know even if we are not sure of it.

She kept quiet for a minute and then said,'School is stupid' and ran off.

I don't know whether my response was appropriate or not and I am also not sure whether she will be able to differentiate the situations and adjust accordingly. I feel we can only make the children aware of different situations which are around us and at the same time not get into what is right or wrong.

A day at Thurahalli forest

Thurahalli


Observing the clouds


just relaxing


A beautiful overview


Up the rock

Enjoying at Gerry Martin Farm

GERRY MARTIN FARM

Responses..

Yesterday varsha wanted to make her own milk to drink. I was busy getting ready to go out so varun poured out the milk for her. She started putting bournvita into the glass and 'plop', I heard the sound. There was a cry,'Mummy, the milk is spilt'. I came to the kitchen and saw the milk spilt all over the counter so we got a cloth and wiped up the milk. Varsha looked dull and said,' I keep spilling everytime' I just told her,'These things happen'. She kept quiet and after five minutes said,'I want milk'. Varun poured her another cup of milk and she immediately took a spoon,put bournvita..held on to the glass mixed and drank it. She said,'Mistakes happen but it is allright, I can do it'. I could see now that children have the inherent confidence in themselves, the belief in themselves seems to decrease or suppressed due to an adult's response to a certain situation or action. If I had offered to do it for her, I would have sent her the message that she cannot do it and she would continue to have that belief that she cannot do such an such thing.
Our responses if come with awareness may help our children to believe in themselves and also believe that if mistakes happen they are able to accept and go forward from there.